Before Dieting...

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Podcast by Bronwyn Fletcher

Before Dieting...

Before Dieting… is the podcast that finally makes sense of why weight is so hard to lose, no matter how many diets you’ve tried. Hosted by Bronwyn Fletcher, a systems thinker who has spoken with more than a thousand women stuck in the same frustrating cycle. This show will turn everything you thought you knew about weight on its head. If you’ve ever started the day eating healthy but finished it inhaling chocolate and hiding the wrappers, this is where you’ll find the reasons. Using systems thinking, Bronwyn gets to the causes behind the causes, so you can stop chasing temporary fixes and finally break the cycle that dieting never will. Here you won’t be told that food is the enemy, or that dieting is the only answer. Instead, you’ll discover that your weight story runs far deeper than calories or willpower. Every episode unpacks the hidden food stories and invisible eating systems that determine your relationship with food. These are the stories and systems that keep recycling the same weight outcomes. This is not a diet podcast; it’s a major reframe of how you gain weight in the first place. Because when you uncover the system that drives your eating, those ‘illogical’ food choices will make perfect sense. Here’s where lasting weight solutions start, Before Dieting…

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30 September 2025

When food is love

🎧 Podcast Show Notes – Episode 1, Season 2

Title: Food Is Love: Carmela’s Story and the Hidden Systems Beneath Overeating

Episode Description:

Welcome to Season Two of Before Dieting. I’m your host, Bronwyn Fletcher, and this season we continue identifying the root causes of women’s recurring weight. Causes that diets alone can never fix.

In today’s episode, we dive into Carmela’s story. A woman whose eating system was built on comfort, ritual, and family belonging. From joyful Friday night cooking sessions to the disconnection, she felt after losing weight, Carmela’s journey shows how food can become far more than fuel. It can be love, tradition, and sometimes a trap.

You’ll hear what happens when you stop eating the way your family always has. And what you risk when you challenge the unspoken rules around food and belonging.

We’ll unpack:

    • How family cultural patterns shape eating systems
    • How a moving to Japan changed Carmela’s relationship with food
    • What happens when your identity is tied to family food rituals
    • How creating new systems can support both health and connection

🎙️ Plus, you’ll get two journal prompts for you to delve into your own family food story.

We’re trying to change the misconception that losing weight is simple. If this episode resonates, please rate, review, and share. It helps other women discover the stories that could change everything.

Thanks in advance and if you would please leave a review and a comment I'd love it.

Regards

Bronwyn Fletcher

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23 September 2025

Food Rules

When it comes to weight loss, most advice stops at “eat less and move more.” But what if the real reason you can’t lose weight, or keep it off goes much deeper?

In this episode of Before Dieting, Bronwyn Fletcher takes a closer look at the eating rules you absorbed in childhood and how they quietly shape your behaviour as an adult. From “finish everything on your plate” to “don’t be greedy,” these rules often run on autopilot, steering your eating without you even realising.

Through the story of Joanne, you’ll hear how dinner-table rules around vegetables, meat, and plate-clearing followed her into adulthood, affecting portion sizes, snacking, and even how she feeds others. You’ll also learn how thousands of repetitions of simple instructions like “eat up” hardwire rules so deeply that surface-level weight loss advice, like mindful chewing or stopping before you’re full, doesn’t stand a chance.

But here’s the important part: rules aren’t always bad. Some can be useful when you’re aware of them, like Julie’s simple rules that help her navigate social situations without overeating. The danger comes when you don’t even know which rules you’re following, and they’re driving you toward results you don’t want.

Bronwyn explains why diets get it wrong, how they clash with your existing rule set, and why no diet can rewrite your food story, rules, or eating system for you. Most importantly, you’ll discover that rules aren’t fixed. Once you uncover them, you have the power to choose, and that choice opens the door to real, sustainable change.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    • The difference between food stories, food rules, and eating systems
    • How childhood rules around eating follow you into adulthood
    • Why well-meaning rules like “finish everything on your plate” can override hunger signals
    • Why diet rules fail when they collide with rules already wired in
    • How conscious awareness of your rules creates space for new choices

Key Takeaway

Your food story, rules, and eating system are personal and unique to you. Once you see them clearly, you don’t have to be ruled by them.

Call to Action

If Before Dieting is helping you shift how you think about weight loss, please take a moment to rate the podcast and leave a comment. It helps other women caught in the weight-regain cycle find their way here too.

For more information read my Blog at weightingforhappiness.com.au

Or read the Transcript on my podcast page at weightingforhappiness.com.au/podcast

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15 September 2025

Abandoning diets

🎙️ The Human Face of the Diet Hope and Abandonment Cycle

Every time a new diet promises hope, women everywhere tell themselves this time will be different. But it rarely is. In this episode of Before Dieting, Bronwyn Fletcher puts a human face on the diet hope and abandonment cycle by sharing Francine’s raw, everyday story.

From the optimism of day one, to the crushing self-talk of ‘failure,’ and the deeper realisation that food meant love and belonging, Francine’s experience reveals the invisible systems that keep women trapped in the weight regain.

You’ll hear:

    • Why diets recycle the same weight, no matter how ‘new’ they seem.
    • How food stories from childhood shape eating patterns for life.
    • The hard question Francine had to ask herself: what food legacy was she passing on to her children?
    • Why understanding your food story is the first step out of the cycle.

If you’ve ever wondered why your weight struggles never end, this episode will give you an honest, shame-free perspective on food stories, and two powerful questions to start uncovering your own.

👉 Listen now and see what’s been hiding beneath the surface of your weight story.

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09 September 2025

Why Weight Is a Puzzle, Not a Problem

🎧Weight is a puzzle to solve, not a problem to fix

In today's episode, Bronwyn Fletcher helps us ditch the blame, step away from diet culture, and rethink what really causes recurring weight. Forget the old story that says being overweight is just about overeating and needs a simple diet fix. Bronwyn makes the case that diets aren’t one-size-fits-all, and if you’ve ever felt like a diet “failed,” it wasn’t your fault.

We talk about how western thinking jumps to quick solutions, why diet hacks are everywhere, and why habits like “drink a glass of water before meals” sound logical but don't get to the root of the real issue. Bronwyn urges listeners to look at weight loss like a jigsaw puzzle, where every piece matters, including upbringing, emotions, and body protection.

Key Takeaways:

    • Permanent weight loss is complex, not simple.
    • Changing your mindset from “problem solving” to “puzzle building” opens up new possibilities.
    • Building habits alone won't break the cycle, understanding your food story can.

Check out my blog for an example of the weight loss puzzle or download my free e-book to see how to solve your puzzle

See the transcript on my website

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02 September 2025

When chocolate is the solution

In today’s episode, you’ll hear Melissa’s food story and the insight she gained from examining her long-term weight struggle, using the iceberg model.

Using an iceberg as a visual aid can help us see the hidden layers beneath complex challenges like weight loss. It shows why the obvious solutions of dieting and calorie-cutting, only work temporarily as they don’t address the root cause of excess weight.

Melissa, is a 49-year-old tech support specialist and mother of two, who has battled weight since her second child was born. Despite countless diets, she found herself stuck in a loop, losing and regaining weight, believing chocolate was the reason.

But when we mapped her patterns and traced her chocolate eating back to childhood,

Melissa realised it wasn’t just about taste, it was about safety and comfort in a home marred by violence.

Through Melissa’s story you’ll see that the path to permanent weight loss begins by turning the iceberg upside-down and finding the root cause, before starting another diet.

Ready to discover your own eating system? Visit Weighting for Happiness to start your discovery.

Click here for the transcript

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26 August 2025

Getting off the diet roller coaster

Getting off the diet roller coaster

Explore why diets so often begin with intense hope, fueled by marketing and outside influences.

Understand how the body's unconscious survival system interprets dietary restriction as starvation, often overpowering conscious willpower and forcing diet abandonment.

Learn why abandoning a diet isn't a failure, but instead a predictable outcome driven by biology.

Discover the phenomenon of weight "overshoot," where post-diet weight regain often exceeds the starting point because of slowed metabolism and increased fat storage

Hear why "low and slow" is key to lasting weight changes and how learning from past cycles, rather than forgetting them, can help break the pattern.

Key takeaway:

Sustainable progress requires working with your body's system, not trying to override it. Consulting a qualified dietician may help set up an approach that works in harmony with your biology.

Resource Links

Visit the resources page for a copy of the Diet Hope and Abandonment Cycle diagram and explore the Weight and Dieting History Program for deeper insights.

Free download Diet Hope and Abandonment Cycle

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